Intro: (1) how faith in the unseen becomes tangible reality (cf. gravity) (2) three reasons for gathering

Joyful Mission (19-21): (1) v.19 → evening of resurrection day → first “church” gathering (2) doors locked → still afraid, given the past few days (3) group included the eleven, the initial group of ladies, the two from the road to Emmaus (4) Jesus miraculously appears with greeting of peace → did not say “shame on you” (cf. Rom. 5:1, Phil. 4:7) (5) v.20 → their fear transforms to gladness/joy (6) v.21 → “I am sending you” → foundation for missions (cf. McCombs, unique path of each of us, praying for lost friends) (7) LESSON → gathering cultivates joy and keeps us on mission

Loving Acceptance (22-23): (1) v.22 → the foundation for being sent (2) “breathed” HS on them → (cf. creation account) (3) v.23 → connection of HS to core gospel message of forgiveness of sins → happens through God, not us (5) forgiveness = acceptance (i.e. not grumbling, complaining, criticizing, gossiping, taking up offense) (6) greatest ongoing experience of Spirit not signs/wonders but love for each other (cf. 1 Cor. 13) → shepherding groups, words of affirmation (6) LESSON → gathering intended to be characterized by loving acceptance, grounded in unity in Christ

Humble Service (24-29): (1) v.24-25 → Thomas refuses to believe until he physically sees Jesus → doubt-based struggles not necessarily sinful (2) v.26 → next appearance also on Sunday, Thomas to be commended for continuing to hang around (3) v.27 → Jesus invites him to do what he asked for word- for-word (4) v.28 → moves from last hold-out to highest worshiper (5) v.29 → final “blessing” for those who have faith without seeing (6) important imagery → communion, baptism, coffee, greeters, host homes (8) LESSON → gathering places people in front of us intended to remind us of Jesus

Conclusion: (1) goal of producing faith in Christ, in order to have new life in him (3) ultimate life is not found in accomplishments, family, friendship, experiences, therapy, self-help, but rather in relationship to God through Christ, experienced in ongoing deepening ways in the life of the church

Intro: (1) perfect day for baptism (2) four new realities offered by resurrected Jesus

Peter and John (1-10)

1. New Life (1-4,9): (1) “first day of the week” around dawn (2) Mary Magdalene (cf. Luke 8:2-3) →with other women to finish burial prep → stone already rolled away (4) v.2 → tell disciples body has been stolen (5) v.3-4 → Peter/John run to tomb, John arrives first (6) v.9 → resurrection foretold (cf. Psalm 16, Is. 53, Hosea 6) (7) MUST be raised (cf. Luke 24, 1 Cor.15:17) (8) “first day” → John 7:37-38, Lev. 23:15-16, Acts 2) (9) LESSON → Jesus brings NEW life (cf. wildflowers)

2. New Faith (5-7): (1) v.5 → John stays outside, stoops to look in (cf. pic) (2) “saw” linen wrappings → quick noticing (2) v.6-7 → Peter enters, “saw” linens/headwrap lying separate/folded (3) “theorizing” seeing → either vaporized or unwrapped (i.e. not stolen) (4) v.8 → John “saw and believed” → response of faith (5) LESSON → Jesus brings NEW faith → counterfeit sources of faith (6) responses to Jesus → cursory, curious, complete (cf. blind climber)

Mary Magdalene (11-18)

1. New Belonging (11-16): (1) v.11-12 → Mary alone at tomb now, encounters angels again at
head/foot of burial spot (cf. ark of covenant) (3) likely sent to comfort her (cf. Heb. 1:14) (4) v.13 → tells angels she is weeping because of Jesus’ missing body (5) v.14 → turns to face outside tomb, doesn’t recognize Jesus (6) v.15 → question/response repeated (7) v.16 → recognition comes when he says her name (8) LESSON → Jesus brings NEW belonging (cf. 10:27, robins)

2. New Family (17-18): (1) v.17 → “do not cling to me” (cf. Mt. 28:9) → act of worship (2) “have not yet ascended” → not leaving yet, but also point to stage of God’s plan (cf. John 14:16-17) (3) “go to my brothers . . .” → doctrine of adoption, new way of relating to God (cf. 1:12) (4) v.18 → Mary goes to share this with others (6) LESSON → Jesus brings new family (cf. NOT gas station, movie theatre, doctor’s office, retail store) → shep group sharing testimonies, JA, pavilion picnic

Conclusion: (1) Bible’s offensive teachings vs. believing Christ was resurrected (2) Jesus firstfruits of eternity

Intro: (1) series recap (2) person/work of Christ central to Christianity → different from other religions (3) maps → historicity (4) three realities of how Jesus’ death addresses our sin

It releases us from guilt (28-30):
(1) v.28 → first of Jesus’ final statements → “I thirst” (2) an indication of his full humanity → loss of fluids, shock, fever, dehydration (3) can’t represent us before God if not fully human (cf. Heb. 2:17) (4) v.29 → given sour wine to drink (cf. Psalm 69) (6) v.30 → last statement, followed by head bow/last breath (cf. pillow) Jesus in charge to the end (8) Mt. 27 → soldiers’ recognition (9) LESSON → image of hyssop as application of blood to cover/clean from sin (cf. 1 John 4:10 (9) cross as epitaph of jesus, last words of Buddha

It washes us from sin (31-37):
(1) v.31 → “day of preparation” → Friday before Passover Sabbath (2) request for Jesus’ legs to be broken so his body could be taken down before Sabbath (cf. Deut. 21:23) (3) v.32-34 → done to thieves on either side, Jesus discovered already dead, blood/water from spear thrust confirm death (5) v.35 → editorial confessional statement (cf. 1 John 1:1-3) (6) two redemptive pictures of blood (cf. Heb. 9:22, communion) and water (cf. 1 John 1:7, baptism) (7) v.36-37 → further supported by OT prophecies (8) LESSON → piercing of Christ unleashes grace (cf. Zech. 12,13, Cowper)

It frees us from death (38-42):
(1) v.38-39 → two religious leaders who secretly follow Jesus ask to bury Jesus (2) Nicodemus brings large amount of spices → only happened with revered leaders (3) v.40 → body prepared in traditional way (4) v.41-42 → placed in nearby new tomb in garden (5) reasons burial is important (cf. 1 Cor. 15:3-4, early church creeds) → proves he died, authenticates resurrection, fulfills OT pictures/prophecies (cf. Jonah, Isaiah), completed humility (cf. Philipp. 2:8), defeated death (6) LESSON → we will die, can defeat it through union with the one who defeated it (cf. Walt Disney)

Conclusion: (1) identifying areas of guilt, sin, death → paper (2) communion

Intro: (1) series recap (2) four aspects of Jesus rejected by the mob

The Nature of Jesus (6-8):
(1) V.6-7 → new info comes out → Jesus’ claim to be divine (2) blasphemy according to law (cf. Lev. 24) (3) previous claims in 5:18, 8:56-58, 10:27-30 (4) critics claim Jesus did not
equate himself to God → may not have said those exact words, but the Jews clearly knew he was doing this (cf. “bless your heart”) (5) v.8 → Pilate more afraid, Romans believed gods could be among them (cf. Acts 14) (6) LESSON → only one able to perfectly represent God/man (cf. Heb. 1:1-3, printing press)

The Authority of Jesus (9-11):
(1) v.9 →trying to confirm Jesus’ origin but he does not answer (cf. Is. 53) (2) likely due to his declaring “not guilty” while also torturing him (3) v.10-11 → flexes muscles of his position, Jesus acknowledges Pilate’s authority, granted by God (cf. Rom. 13:1-2) (4) Jewish leaders
abused their authority, guilty of greater sin (cf. Mt. 5:19, 23:23, James 3:1) (5) LESSON → following Jesus = submitting to his authority, respecting earthly ones (cf. govt, parents, elders) (6) NYC cat

The Friendship of Jesus (12):
(1) Pilate in an impossible situation → knows Jesus is innocent, but fears threat of disloyalty to Caesar (cf. Tiberius) (3) point of no return for Pilate → once again a battle between two kingdoms (4) prioritizing Jesus’ kingdom over earthly kingdoms leads us to friendship with
him (cf. John 15:13-15, Daniel 3) (5) LESSON → Jesus often best experienced through friendship with fellow believers (cf. shepherding groups, knowing and being known, greeting on Sundays, LB, R/K)

The Care of Jesus (13-16):
(1) v.13 → Pilate exhausted and out of ideas, formal place of judgment (2) v.14 → most likely Friday in prep for Sabbath of Passover week, “sixth hour” (noon) vs. “third hour” in Mark (3) “behold your king” → “behold the man”, Caiaphas “prophecy” (4) v.15 → lowest depth of
tragedy as mob/leaders reject their true king for Gentile tyrant (cf. 1 Samuel 8:10-18 vs. Ezekiel 34) (5) LESSON → the most “religious” folks often miss Jesus (cf. 5:39, Mt. 5:20, Kairos)

Conclusion: (1) “intentional blindness” → car keys, gorilla/bb video (2) taking care not to miss Jesus

Intro: (1) series recap (2) Passover recap (cf. Ex. 12:5 → 1 Cor. 5:7, 1 Peter 1:19)

Rejected (18:38-40):
(1) v.38 → Pilate convinced Jesus has done nothing wrong (2) v.39 → custom of releasing one prisoner at Passover (3) “King of the Jews” → used in petty way to indicate how ridiculous the religious leaders are being (cf. Mark 15:10) (4) v.40 → growing crowd rejects release of Jesus, opts for Barabbas (cf. Mark 15:11) (5) Barabbas → “son of the father,” convicted of robbery, insurrection, murder → kind of “savior” they wanted (6) LESSON → Jesus rejected so that we could be accepted (cf. scapegoat) (7) Jesus with us in our rejections (cf. rejection letters)

Abused (19:1-4):
(1) v.1 → Pilate sees opportunity to appease crowd, begins to carry out unjust abusive actions toward Jesus (2) flogging done with whip made of leather strips with bone and metal on the ends (3) v.2-3 → mocked by soldiers for claiming to be a king (4) crown of thorns (date palm), purple robe like those worn by royalty, mocked and slapped (5) v.4 → Pilate once again proclaims no guilt (6) LESSON → sinful humanity attacks beauty that exposes us (cf. John 1:9-11, Is. 53:2,5) (6) child destroying sand castle → hurt people hurt people (7) Jesus with us in our physical struggles

Condemned (19:5-6):
(1) v.5 → Pilate’s presentation of Jesus likely an attempt to show leaders/crowd how ridiculous they’re being at being threatened by such a pitiful looking creature (2) ultimate display of humility by Christ (cf. Philipp. 2:8) (3) his appearance likely very difficult to look at (cf. Is. 52:14) v.6 → their response is to escalate their desire for his death (cf. 1 Cor. 2:6-10) (4) Pilate continues to want nothing to do with any of it (5) “behold the man” (cf. Zech. 6:12-13) (6) LESSON → Jesus will bring triumph through suffering, in doing so redeems suffering

Conclusion: (1) monster at end of this book (2) app to believers/unbelievers

Intro: (1) series recap (2) setup of v.28-32 (3) v.28 → MAP, “early morning” on Friday (4) v.29a-31a → Pilate the Roman governor of Judea, not interested in religious squabbles (5) scene of blasphemy charge not recorded by John (6) v.31b → capital punishment taken away from Jews (7) v.32 Jesus guarantees his death by Roman crucifixion (cf. 3:14, Num. 21:9, Is. 52:13 (8) v.33-38 → three areas “on trial”

Our Source of Value (33-34)
(1) v.33 → primary threat to Roman authority presented by Jewish leadership (2) v.34 → Jesus’ response a dismissal of Jewish leaders’ charge (3) Rome concerned with treason (cf. Barabbus), Jews with blasphemy (4) another dynamic → emphatic “you” Pilate’s dismissal of Jesus (5) LESSON → values of Jesus/Pilate very different (6) 1 Cor. 1 → “having it together” by world’s standards make it harder to submit to God (7) where do you derive value from? (cf. CEO productivity)

Our source of belonging (35-36): 
(1) v.35 → further eluding of dealing with Jesus → only concern is whether anything truly “wrong” has been done (i.e. threat against Roman rule) (2) v.36 → Jesus here claims kingship, but not kind that is geopolitical threat to Rome (3) one proof of this is that his followers are not uprising (4) LESSON #1 → followers of world seek belonging through power/performance (5) LESSON #2 → followers of Christ belong to their him regardless of externals (cf. Philipp. 3:20, Buzz)

Our source of truth (37-38): 
(1) Pilate seemingly intrigued, Jesus continues to emphasize kingship of a different kind (i.e. based in “the truth” → cf. 8:31-34, 14:6, 17:3) (2) feeding of 5000 in John 6 → eventual response (3) v.38 → Pilate too worn down, concerned with practical (4) LESSON → we often prefer practically over truth (cf. Pilate, parenting, tape over car light) (4) living for the practical leads to defining truth however we want to (5) only living for what works shrivels our soul (cf. “a hole to dig”)

Conclusion: 1 John 2:15-17 → Do not love this world or the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. For the world offers only a physical craving, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our possessions and achievements. These are not from the Father, but from the world. And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever.

Intro: (1) series recap (2) “denial” → distancing ourselves from Christ (3) six principles

High Priest (12-13, 19-22)
1. Rejection of God’s history: (1) Jesus arrested, taken to Annas (2) former high priest, son
Caiaphas now in his place, still widely regarded as true high priest (4) represents culmination of Israel’s history in OT (5) denial avoided by remembering past (cf. lent, scripture, personal stories)
2. Rejection of God’s character: (1) illegal trial → rushing it (2) v.19 → question about disciples and teaching (cf. popularity) (3) v.20-21 → eyewitnesses required (4) v.22 → physical intimidation (5) denial avoided by true transformation (cf. NOT fandom, bible knowledge, external rules, etc.)

Peter (15-18, 25-27)
1. Casual denial: (1) v.15 → “another disciple” → eyewitness detail, legend of Zebedee’s house (2) v.16-17 → John gets Peter in, servant girl knows John is a disciple (3) despite non threat, Peter casually denies (4) denial can happen easily → don’t dismiss “small” sins (cf. CW’s dad)
2. Compromised denial: (1) v.18 → far more threatening folks (2) v.25 → same question, second denial (3) v.26 → now a real threat, combined with guilt (cf. v.10) (4) third denial, fulfillment of 13:36-28 (5) denial happens through over-confidence (cf. asbestos) or fear of others (cf. nemo)

Jesus (14, 19-24)
1. God’s plan: (1) v.14 → 11:47-50 (2) in plotting Jesus’ death, Caiaphas unwittingly “prophesies” about God’s plan in Christ (cf. Acts 2:23) (3) when things look dark, God’s plan still in place (cf. Ps. 139:11-12) (4) denial avoided by remembering Jesus our true High Priest (cf. Heb. 4:14-16)
2. God’s witness: (1) v.20-21 → still protecting disciples (2) defends teaching as being public → never been refuted (2) v.23 → maintains composure while being treated unjustly (cf. Rev. 1:5) (3) our denials point us to Jesus’ unflinching faithfulness in our place → reject enemy’s accusing

Conclusion: (1) Galileo’s telescope (2) where might you be in current danger of denial?

Intro: (1) review of ch.12-17 (2) John’s omissions (3) begins with betrayal

Jesus our Sacrifice (1-3): (1) v.1 → MAP (mileish) (2) garden setting (cf. Gen 2:15) → going to redeem what was lost in the original garden (3) “brook Kidron” → red with blood (4) v.2 → Jesus did not try to evade, but made himself readily available (5) v.3 → band a mix of Roman soldiers (200-600?) and Jewish temple guards (cf. Jews/Gentiles) (7) LESSON → all these elements a reminder that we are all responsible for the death of Jesus (cf. Eph. 2:1-2, Rom. 3:23) AND that he willingly offered himself (cf. John 10:7-8) (8) your struggles/sins are not annoying to Jesus

Jesus our Master (4-6): (1) v.4 → Jesus is in charge (cf. knows what is happening, comes forward, first to speak) (2) his question is a set-up to reveal who’s in charge (3) v.5 → they respond with his earthly name, he affirms with his divine identity (4) I AM = Yahweh (cf. Ex. 3:14) (5) John’s “I am” statements → bread, light, shepherd, vine, etc. (6) v.6 → something supernatural happens to cause these toughened soldiers to physically fall back (cf. baptism, walking on water, calming seas, transfiguration, second coming) (7) LESSON → Jesus is in charge, bigger and stronger than any sin or situation we face

Jesus our Protector (7-9): (1) v.7 → repeat of earlier question/response (2) v.8 → reiterates response, adds statement of protection for his disciples (3) one purpose of earlier demonstration of power was to scare soldiers from messing with disciples (cf. bird, elephant) (4) v.9 → John quotes this as one level of fulfillment of Jesus’ earlier statements (5) earlier statements point further to eternal safety, not just temporal safety (6) LESSON #1 → Jesus fully capable of preventing any trial, so trials we do experience are sovereignly permitted (8) LESSON #2 → Jesus protects our faith from failing (Philipp. 1:6)

Jesus our Substitute (10-11): (1) v.10 → Peter reacts violently in defense, follows kiss of betrayal from Judas (3) ear cut off → instinct to cheer, but, as usual, what makes sense to Peter in the moment is actually the opposite of God’s will (4) v.11 → response #1 is to put away the sword (6) response #2 is a rhetorical question using the image of a cup → Jesus’ earlier prayer, OT background of God’s cup of wrath/judgment → contrast with cup we now drink (6) LESSON → we can react violently when things aren’t going how we think they should, can we humbly submit like Jesus did?

Conclusion: (1) backdrop of betrayal (2) sources of betrayal → others, yourself, external circumstances, God (3) four truths about Jesus to hold onto in the face of betrayal

Intro: (1) intro topic (2) broader picture of discipleship/membership → privileges, opp’s, responsibilities (2) definition → removing an individual from membership (3) three driving questions

Where is discipline in the Bible?
1. Hebrews 12:7-11: (1) general vs. formal (2) v.7 → connected to endurance (3) v.8-10 → best
when relational → spiritual and earthly parenting (4) v.11 → short vs. long-term
2. Matthew 18:15-17: (1) general pattern for dealing with sin (2) one-on-one, two/three, church, treat like unbeliever (3) responding to sin → harboring, reciprocating, slandering, addressing
3. 1 Cor. 5:1-11: (1) v.1-2 → unrepentant sin must be addressed (2) v.5 → “handing over to Satan”, goal of restoration (3) v.11-12 → ongoing unrepentant lifestyle, “judging”

When and how do we discipline?
1. When: (1) outward, serious, unrepentant (2) examples → divorce, divisiveness, sexual
immorality, false teaching, not providing, unwilling to reconcile (3) every situation different → how long they have been Christian, willing to be influenced by elders, person’s past
2. How: (1) involve as few as possible (2) led by the elders (3) move very slowly (4) start with
benefit of doubt (5) inform/instruct congregation (6) interactions with those being disciplined → little biblical specifics, depends on relationship, get counsel of elders, goal of restoration

Why do we discipline?
1. To expose: sin thrives in the dark, must be brought to the light (5:2, 1 John 1:6-7)
2. To warn: discipline a reminder of God’s ultimate judgment of sin (5:5)
3. To save: a tool of last resort to bring someone to repentance (Gal. 6:1. Rom. 2:4)
4. To protect: (1) sin spreads if left unchecked (5:6) (2) Creatures → herd protection
5. To present Christ: Christians should look different (5:1, Mt. 5:13)

Conclusion: (1) bb foul → whistle vs. coaching (2) songs → God’s faithfulness (cf. comm psg)

Intro: (1) elder-led → selection process, qual’s (3) pastor/shepherd/overseer (4) duties → meetings, SGL oversight, communion, counsel/prayer (5) current team → B, J, M, C, A rotating off (6) upcoming JH TT shift (7) inserts → member responsibility, only role for only men (8) four aspects of character to look for

Four Characteristics of Character
1. Grounded in Christ (1-2, 5): (1) biblical character grounded in one’s identity in Christ (2) four descriptions → justified by faith, peace with God, access to grace, HS-based love (3) importance → earthly vs. supernatural wisdom, under-shepherds vs. THE shepherd, humility vs. self- importance (4) example → pausing to pray in meetings

2. Formed over time (3-4): (1) 1 Timothy 1 → not a recent convert, household management (2) biblical character sanctified via process of suffering/endurance/character/hope (3) importance → danger of premature leadership, consistency key, varied experiences help (4) examples → eldering can’t be hurried, many decisions not black/white

3. Emerges under pressure (3-4): (1) “pressure” words → endure, suffer (2) unlikely combo with rejoicing → HOW? (3) spiritually mature people have learned that God works through struggle (4) importance → elders under consistent pressure (cf. member care, staffing, finances, criticisms, personal life) (5) perilous privilege → 2 Cor. 11:28 (6) trust vs. suspicion

4. Discerned in community: (1) not explicitly in this passage but seen elsewhere (2) Macedonian churches in 2 Cor. 8:1-3, Timothy in Philipp. 2:19-22 (3) congregation participation critical in identifying potential elders (4) considerations → those active in service, posture of humility and kindness and gentleness, love for and capacity in both scripture and people, active/present

Elder Interview: (1) how would you describe your experience as an elder these last three years? (2) what has brought you the most joy as an elder and what has been a difficulty of being an elder? (3) what do you most appreciate about our church family? (4) what counsel would you give the church family as we enter into elder identification? (5) would you close this time by praying for our congregation?

Conclusion: (1) Andy → benevolence deacon, second stint, humor, most margin (season of life), caring for care-givers, checking in on me, correcting me, “tough on issues, gentle on people” (2) inserts in worship guide

Intro: (1) last two years at Grace (2) Gen. 1, Mt. 28 (3) “missions” → unique/deliberate gospel mission of the church to make disciples of all nations (4) “missionary” → someone sent out by local churches to make gospel known across ethnic/linguistic/geographic divides (5) six ways → Antioch, Grace

Go (11:19-21): (1) physically traveling to a different place, with the purpose of sharing the good news of Christ (short or long term) (2) v.19 → first goers a result of suffering, natural starting point of Jews (3) v.20 → ones in Antioch extended further to Gentiles (4) v.21 → many responded in repentance and faith (5) Grace → informal (cf. Ray and Bonnie), formal (Guatemala, Thailand, Homeless Connect)

Mobilize (11:27-30, 12:25): (1) stir others to action, coordinate efforts → culture of missions (2) v.27-28 → Agabus prophesies famine (3) v.29-30 → leadership gathers offering from church, sends it with S/B (4) 12:25 → S/B return/report, bring Mark (5) location → MAP (6) Mallie the mobilizer → OMF experience, comm to/from mp’s, opportunities to serve (cf. MS boys), strategic partnerships (can’t do everything)

Welcome (13:1): (1) part of culture of missions is welcoming those who are different from us → ethnic, socioeconomic, political, secondary doctrine, church background (2) Antioch leadership diversity → Barnabus (Cyprus), Simeon (Africa), Lucius (north Africa), Manean (related to Herod’s family), Saul (Jew) (3) Grace → international students, Barry/Karen, members from other countries, TIF, shepherding groups, GWCTD

Pray (13:2-3): (1) prayers of supplication/intercession on behalf of mp’s (2) “worshiping . . . fasting . . . praying” → regular corporate rhythms, work for the Lord intended to flow from worship to the Lord (cf. worshipers in community engaged in ministry) (3) Grace → prayer services, mp’s of the week in Friday email, shepherding groups twice a year, spontaneous special cases (cf. Canfield visa)

Send (13:2-3): (1) helping “goers” with support that is practical/prayerful/financial (2) v.2-3 → role of HS, some specifically “set apart” for unique “going” work, “sent off” with prayer covering and calling to specific “work”(3) Grace → mp’s (each one a unique “work”), practical help (cf. items for s-t trips, Christmas projects, van for Canfields, house while home), financial help (cf. importance of regular giving)

Learn (14:24-28): (1) becoming aware of mission work and opportunities (2) v.24-26 → joy of reuniting after mission trip (3) v.27-28 → joy of sharing seeing God at work (counter to news), importance of mp’s experiencing community (4) Grace → monthly missions sharing, mp newsletters, SS class, mp wall and QR code, list of mp’s on website, books (When Helping Hurts)

Conclusion: (1) current and future goals (2) yo-yo (3) Rev. 5, 7

Intro: (1) background (2) aging struggle → loss, regret, physical/mental changes, less control, loneliness

Reflect on your past (4-8): (1) “birth” (cf. 139:13-16) (2) odds of you being here 1 in 400 trillion → God really wanted you to be here (3) furthermore, God created you with a purpose (cf. Jer. 1:5) (4) “youth” and “young men” in Proverbs → identifying both pos/neg experiences of growing up that pointed you to Christ (5) benefit of growing older is more experience trusting Christ (cf. Prov. 16:31) (6) younger need stability of older (cf. Grady in elder mtg, older shep group) (7) “portent” → miracle (cf. finishing half)

Rest in your identity (9-13): (1) later life “enemies” → loneliness, shame, diminishing capacity
(2) early life “enemies” → self-sufficiency, pride in what we’re capable of (3) when capacity decreases, we can feel loss of value/usefulness (c f. David in OT) (4) first response of Isaiah 46:3-4, Psalm 73:26 → God’s capacity never dwindles (5) second response → diminishing capacity a reminder that believer’s true identity is grace, not works (cf. aging rock star, 2 Cor. 12:9-10) (6) won’t be pastor one day (Ortlund)

Reengage in your service (14-18): (1) proclaiming God’s faithfulness in older age referenced six times → never retire from serving/ministering (2) implications → continue looking for evidence of God’s presence (v.15), proclaiming God’s ongoing faithfulness (i.e. not just nostalgia), investing in next generation (v.18) (3) may look different (cf. teen living with older person, my dad, lady in nursing home, homebound lady working telephone, prayer, “free expert childcare”) (4) greater maturity = greater service (cf. older youth)

Revel in your resurrection (19-21): (1) contrasting images of low and high, with three different verbs of being brought up (2) “depths of earth” = Sheol → some sort of awareness of resurrection (i.e. being rescued from death), as in other psalms (3) while culture champions defying aging, Christians should welcome it (cf. Romans 8:11, 1 Cor. 15:54-58) (4) Rev. 13:6-7 → daily questions (5) Shakespeare → “with mirth and laughter let old wrinkles come”

Conclusion: (1) Elaine [see below for transcript] → Psalm 90:10,12,14, 92:12-15, younger asking older for help (3) church family the best place to both give and receive through aging process

Do I daily: (1) reflect on my own mortality? (2) realize there are only two destinations (heaven or hell) and that I and every person I know will go to one or the other? (3) that this world is not my home and that everything in it will burn, leaving behind only what is eternal? (4) that my choices and actions have a direct influence on the world to come? (5) that my life is being examined by God, and that the only appraisal of my life that will ultimately matter is his?

Like many of you, I grew up going to church knowing about God & his son, Jesus; but not until I was 23 years old living in Okinawa, Japan in 1966 did I realize that my sins put Jesus on that cross and I repented of my sins and received God’s gift of salvation.  That began my walk with Jesus and getting to know Him as my personal savior and Lord of my life…not just knowing about Him!

Looking back over these past 60 years, I see how God has been so faithful to me, and I have experienced the Goodness of God in my life.  I am 82 years old now, and there have been challenges as well as joys to being this old.

First & foremost, Jimmy’s and my heart’s desire is that we remain faithful to the Lord and that we finish well in our life here on this earth.   Now we understand that we are always “Learning and Growing” in our daily walk with Jesus.  However, there are situations at times that are challenging in our lives.  And yet, if we stop long enough to consider them, we’ll realize that there are always blessings in these situations that go along with the challenges … if we take the time to look for them.

For instance, my physical stamina is not what it used to be when I was younger.  My brain may say that I can do something or I want to participate in some activity, but my body just doesn’t always follow through with the energy to do it.  But I do know it’s important at my age to stay active in some physical way (I like water aerobics) and it’s important to stay involved with friends my age.  A few weeks ago I had lunch with 4 sweet friends… two I have known since I was 15 years old.  I was the youngest in that group of 80’s & 90’s gals.  We laughed a lot as we talked about how to “stay young in an old body”!!  What a hoot that lunch was!

And then, through various ongoing health issues that I have, the Lord continues to remind me that this earthly body is simply not going to last forever…but as 2 Cor. 4:16 says, “though this body is wasting away”, the Lord is so faithful to us that He continues to “renew our spirit day by day.”  At those times, it’s God’s promises that give me comfort & strength … especially when He tells me  “Elaine, don’t be afraid” … that “He’ll never leave me or forsake me” …  and that “nothing will ever separate me from His love.”  Whether it’s an illness or a heartache I’m dealing with,  it’s such an encouragement to remember these precious promises.

Another challenge I face is when my brain tells me that maybe I am getting older after all!  You see, I can’t always remember a certain word I need to say when I’m talking …  or I can’t recall your name when I see you … or I don’t remember the details of something that happened  just last week.  How frustrating is that!!  And yet, I can sing every word to many songs I learned as a teenager in the 1950’s!  I just loved Elvis Presley!  What fun memories those songs remind me of those times!  Are there Challenges ? … Oh, Yes!  … But also Blessings?  … Yes, Absolutely!

 You know, there have been so many joys in my life by the Lord allowing me to live this long.  First , I have been able to see both my children receive Jesus and then grow up and become parents themselves…giving us 7 grandchildren … all who have been such a treasure in our life.  And now, all our grands are grown…two are married, and one granddaughter & her husband are giving us a great granddaughter this coming March!  So you see, if the Lord hadn’t allowed me the privilege of getting older, I would have missed out on these blessings!

Then, one of the joys we’ve had is knowing and still keeping in contact today with many International students from years past through Tuscaloosa International Friends.  That is so special to Jimmy & me.

Also, the Lord has given me the privilege of serving through the years in various ways here at Grace … right now I’m serving as a greeter which I really enjoy.  

And then, I’ve loved participating in Community Bible Study for almost 40 years where I get to share each week with ladies how God’s Word is living truth that we can obey and apply to our lives today just as the folks did 2000 years ago.  What a blessing that is!

So you see, getting older may have many challenges, but it also has many joys and blessings.  And the BEST BLESSING is the one that is yet to come.  Because of God’s mercy in allowing me to be one of his children, I get to live with Him forever in heaven.  He has prepared a place for me to be with him and other loved ones who have received Jesus as Savior for all eternity.

That’s the  MOST AMAZING BLESSING  and GREATEST JOY of them all!!

Intro: (1) “fulfilled” (2) Luke 24:27, 44

Our foundation in failure (13-15): (1) wise men go back a different way (2) another angel appearance to Joseph → commands of “rise, take, flee, remain” → legitimate danger from Herod (3) middle-of-night departure → MAP (4) first “fulfillment” from Hosea 11:1 (5) original context of remembering God’s rescue of his people from Egypt in the exodus (6) the story of Jesus is the new and improved version of the story of Israel (7) further reflections → Red Sea/baptism, wilderness for 40 days/40 years, teaching from mountain (8) where Israel failed, Jesus succeeds → where do you feel failure currently? (9) the answer to our failures is Jesus’ faithfulness in our place (cf. Christmas with the Kranks)

Our hope in hurt (16-18): (1) Herod tricked → murderous response (cf. Moses/Pharaoh) (2) based on calculated timing Herod attempts to eliminate Jesus → good luck (3) Bethlehem around 1,000 people (i.e. probably 15-20 little boys) → real sin/danger involved in this rescue mission (4) Jeremiah 31:15 another “fulfillment” → Rachel the wife of Jacob, died during childbirth (5) “Ramah” where she was buried, where Israel would have marched through on way to exile → the tears of Rachel and exiles now reach their climax in tears of Bethlehem mothers (6) however, v.16 begins the reversal leading to v.31-34 (7) Jesus is our hope in the midst of hurt (advent imagery, Malcolm Guite)

Our deliverer in desolation (19-23): (1) Herod’s death brings next angel, subsequent return (2-3 yrs) (2) reminder that Jesus was a sojourner → app to those living in non-native country (3) Joseph obedient but hits a snag (4) Archelaus Herod’s son over region of Judea → violent like his father (5) Joseph’s concern confirmed by another angel, so he goes to Nazareth in Galilee → MAP (6) they return to their “hometown” after being 4-5 years (approx. 1500) (7) another “fulfillment” this time by “prophets” → likely combo of being despised (cf. Isaiah 53, Nathaniel in John 1) and “branch” in Isaiah 11:1,10 (cf. 4:15) (8) Jesus knows deeply of isolation/rejection and pursues us in ours (cf. demoniac in Luke 8)

Conclusion: Revelation 12 → read v.10-11

Intro: responses to Jesus → every move toward Christ is a response to his offer

Anxious Anger (3, 7-8, 12): (1) Jesus “king of the Jews” (v.2) → Herod “the king” (v.3) (2) background → puppet ruler, politically savvy, temple, building projects (3) paranoid in later life, killed family members (cf. v.7-8, 2:13-18) (4) “Jerusalem” also “troubled” → status quo about to be shaken up ((cf. Psalm 2, Mt. 10:34-38) (5) Jesus a threat → he dethrones us (6) following Jesus means I’m no longer in charge → this can create anxious anger (7) Herod more concerned with power/projects → where do I need to let go of my agenda/expectations (cf. holidays, job, marriage, retirement, etc.) (8) John 6:68

Indifferent Apathy (4-6): (1) Herod’s first response is to find out where Messiah is to be born (2) his question a 100 level on jeopardy → Bethlehem, based on Micah 5:2 → they get an A on the quiz (3) they possess head knowledge but lack heart desire (cf. John 5:39-40, 2 Timothy 3:7) (4) over-familiarity can allow apathy to creep in (5) cautions → reading Bible mostly for info, participating in church out of routine, growing weary in doing good (6) Buddy vs. Wayne → war against by remembering you have a role (cf. Christmas project, Denise G, advent candle lighters, banquet help)

Enduring Pursuit (1-2, 9): (1) Bethlehem outside Jerusalem (2) “wise men from the east” → potential origin of Babylon → this term used in Daniel, enduring prophetic legacy of Daniel (4) don’t know their number/names/timing (“house”), but can assert they were Gentiles (5) “we saw his star” → likely from Numbers 24:17, perhaps taught by Daniel (6) whatever “star” was they had been following for 900 miles (7) willing to travel because God met them where they were (8) relationship with God often described as “path” (9) one way to cultivate endurance is to remember that Christ meets us where we are

Extravagant Worship (10-11): (1) response of joy when star stops in Bethlehem (2) v.2 → expressed desire of worship, repeated in v.10 (3) imagine Mary’s day (4) their actions display far more than curiosity (5) giving of costly gifts (“treasuries”) → likely used to actions of court life with kings (6) need to be careful about reading too much gifts (7) gold the rare metal of kings, frankincense used in worship ceremonies, myrrh used to set apart for service and to embalm the dead → all three associated with Christ’s person/work (8) Romans 12:1-2 → time, abilities, money, relationships (9) Luke 2:10-11

Conclusion: examining responses to Christ → threatened hostility, boring religion, worshipful pursuit

Intro: (1) series overview (2) placing ourselves in the story (3) read entire passage

Mary: (1) v.18 → “betrothed” → pledged to marriage, broken only by divorce (2) discovered to be pregnant → imagine that conversation (3) supernatural conception → more on HS later (4) v.23 → virgin birth an OT prophecy of Messiah (cf. Isaiah 7:14) (5) originally given to Ahaz after he chooses human deliverance over God’s → future deliverance to come from God through ruler born of a virgin (6) Mary not in control, yet must learn to trust in God’s control → Elizabeth (cf. community)

Joseph: (1) v.19 → completely caught off guard → character seen in tri-fold way (3) v.20 → supernatural intervention (4) v.24 → responds in complete obedience (5) takeaway #1 → God chooses for Joseph to squirm → dependence learned in struggle (6) takeaway #2 → Mary had no choice, but Joseph did → genealogy only works with adoption (cf. communion) (7) takeaway #3 → Joseph accepts lifetime of shame, but also front-row seat to Jesus → external pain creates opp for greater intimacy with Christ

Holy Spirit: (1) v.18 → “birth” = origin (cf. John 1) (2) one role of HS is to help God be tangible in everyday life → requires trust in face of unknown (3) sometimes faithfulness in familiar (cf. deadbeat job), other times stepping into unknown (Norris) (4) v.20-22 → HS connected to Father’s work through Son, verified by Scripture (5) cultivate Spirit-living by being open to God in everyday spaces → wherever you are struggling to be faithful may be where the Lord is inviting you into Spirit-living (cf. Zech. 4:6)

Jesus: (1) v.21 → primary mission (2) v.22 → all of this pre-planned by God (3) v.23 → “born of virgin” first part of prophecy, “Immanuel” second part (4) another title for Jesus meaning “God with us” → one of the great realities for those who are followers in Christ (5) experience of being alone extremely dangerous (Redbird Christmas) (6) Jesus’ earthly life, promise to send HS (7) verses → Psalm 139:7-9, Mt. 28:19-20, Heb. 13:5, Rom. 8:38-39, Rev. 21:3-4 (8) importance of community

Conclusion: which lesson from which person fits where you are the most right now?

Intro: (1) series intro (2) background of genealogies (3) who is this person in Mt. 1:1? (4) v.17

The Savior for Sinners: (1) hebrew “Joshua” → the LORD saves (cf. v.21) → similarities between Joshua and Jesus (2) Jesus’ earthly ministry (cf. rescue from danger, healings, feeding) → points toward greater restoration (3) advent reminds that Jesus is the savior for sin, not just a therapist for problems (cf. “go and sin no more”) (4) genealogy → kings (Jehoshaphat, Hezekiah, Uzziah, Ahaz, Manasseh), women (prostitute, adultery) (5) “Lord reveal sin in me” → need for Christ does not lessen

The Messiah of Prophecy: (1) a title connected to “Messiah” (i.e. anointed) (2) anointing = set apart by God for special task (cf. OT three-fold offices) (3) anticipated future ruler throughout OT (cf. g-parents at Christmas) (4) equated during Jesus’ life to overthrow of Romans (cf. ascension) (5) Messiah had to fit certain criteria (cf. Isaiah 7:14, Micah 5:2, Zech. 9:9) (6) Jesus fits the requirements of Messiah (cf. “must be santa”) → next two points (7) advent redirects our expectations to future hope, not present comfort

The King of Israel: (1) “son of David” → appeal to Jews, arguably Matthew’s biggest point in genealogy (2) ⅔ of list emphasize royal line → v.6, v.11-12, v.16 (3) another identifier of Messiah is born of right line → had to be descendant of David (cf. 2 Samuel 7:12-16) (4) “son of David” nine times in Matthew → Jesus possesses power/authority, capacity to heal/restore/bring peace (cf. Isaiah 9:6-7, earthly ministry) (5) advent reminds us that Jesus provides strength in weakness (cf. mental, physical, relational, spiritual)

The Promise for Gentiles: (1) “son of Abraham” → difference from Luke (2) Abraham kind of Jew and Gentile (cf. Genesis 12:1-3, 17:5-6, 15-16) (3) Jesus matters for Gentiles as well → included in genealogy (4) some, perhaps all, women in genealogy were Gentile → Jesus was not “pure” Jew (4) God’s plan included the nations from the beginning, culminates in Christ (cf. Gal. 3:27-29) (5) advent reminds us that Christ is available to everyone (cf. missions Christmas project)

Conclusion: three groups/responses → leaders completely reject, crowds casually observe, disciples unconditionally follow → which are you?

Intro: (1) series recap (2) Jesus as model and substitute (3) seven ways to affirm Christlikeness


1. Obedient (John 5:19-21): (1) Jesus’ earthly ministry (2) v.20-23 → Father/Son equal and in a
loving/mutual relationship (3) despite this, the Son is obedient (4) practical → kids quickly/fully, someone persevering with hard boss, praying for gov’t, recognizing spouse for service

2. Forgiving (Luke 23:33-38): (1) forms of mockery → garments, saving others/himself, sour wine, king of Jews (2) despite this, Jesus prays for their forgiveness → he is dying for the ones mocking him (3) practical → not retaliating, initiating a hard conversation, not joining in slander

3. Hospitable (John 14:1-3): (1) Jesus’ current activity described in terms of hospitality → intended to comfort our hearts (2) have all SG host home folks stand (3) practical → missionary families, using a truck for moving, loaning items, inviting kids into activities (cf. baking, hunting), Carla

4. Initiative (Matthew 14:14-19): (1) three divine initiatives → keeping, involving, multiplying
(2) “seeing a need and moving to meet it” (3) practical → encouraging card/text, “expected”
things (i.e. paper towels), doing something without being asked (i.e. litter), talking to visitors

5. Dependable (John 14:16-18): (1) promise of consistent presence → by Spirit, then by return (2) affirming those who do what they say they’re going to do (3) practical → parents driving kids, helpful co-worker, coffee team, returning a borrowed item in good condition

6. Joyful (John 2:7-10, 16:24): (1) first miracle at a scene of joy and enhances the joy → Jesus’ desire in 16:24 (2) affirming those who cultivate joyful attitudes (3) practical → greeters, those who make us laugh, those who serve cheerfully, those who endure suffering well

7. Humble (Philippians 2:3-5): (1) Jesus’ ultimate humility → intended to be reproduced in us from the inside out (2) affirming others who fly under the radar (3) practical → Barry N (coffee shop, funeral), Kate N (bday cards), Mark C (security), kids and those who serve them

Conclusion: (1) two steps → notice, verbalize (2) upcoming sharing service

Intro: (1) series recap (2) Crabtree book (3) definition (3) biblical examples

Characteristics of Affirmation

1. Correctionless (16:24): (1) affirming words are like sweet treats, but ones that are actually
healthy (cf. okra ice cream) (2) affirming without correcting (cf. manager’s “sandwich” method
(3) v.21,23 → a way to be influential

2. Consistent (15:23): (1) one aspect of timing is being consistent (cf. husband saying “I love you”) (2) compliments tend to decrease over time (cf. dating, marriage) (3) lack of criticism does not equal affirmation (cf. avoiding poison vs. eating nutrients) (4) put it on calendar (cf. flowers)

3. Candid (12:19): (1) honesty builds endurance into our relationships (2) the best sincere
affirmations flow from a heart being transformed by Christ (3) hearts that are self-focused don’t
affirm (4) look for ways to affirm Christlikeness in others (cf. two pastors)

Mistakes in Affirming

1. Optional (11:24-25): (1) principle of giving in order to receive (2) app to money, words (3) part of being a worshiper is “praising” others (cf. Mt. 25:41) (3) one way to counteract discouragement is to proactively bless/serve others (cf. Sherlock Holmes)

2. Only (22:9): (1) actions necessary in addition to words (cf. 2 Cor. 9:8, Eph. 2:10, James 2:15-16) (2) only one form of blessing → meals, giving rides, encouraging, staying in difficult marriage, serving (4) danger of doing minimum (cf. providing father who doesn’t relationally engage)

3. Obsequious (29:5): (1) flattery traps oneself/others (2) affirmation grounded in image of God, not commending what God condemns (cf. Isaiah 5:20) (3) examples → humor, complimenting in order to get something, rebellious toddler, exaggerated praise, self-esteem vs. self-acceptance

Conclusion: (1) cards → who can you affirm this week (2) shep group (3) next week → practical ways

Intro: (1) series recap (2) “communicating the gospel with the aim to persuade” (3) “communicating” → words are necessary (cf. Acts 10) (4) “gospel” → joyful message from God that leads us to salvation (cf. Eccles. 3:11) (5) “aim” → two categories of people (cf. Acts 17) (6) “persuade” → Jesus the specific target (cf. John 14:6) (7) 1 Peter 3:15

Honor Christ: (1) “holy” → OT background (2) 2 Cor. 13:5, 2 Peter 1:10-11 → role of others (3) can have doubts, days where this doesn’t feel true (4) diagnosis → decision vs. commitment, knowledge vs. intimacy, where do you go for comfort, what disappoints/frustrates, what gets you excited, rules over relationship, self-help or Spirit-power, Christ our greatest treasure (5) weak vs. strong faith

Be prepared: (1) two aspects of “preparedness” (2) explanation of gospel → God, man, Christ, response (3) other side is looking for “felt needs” (i.e. doorways) into people’s lives → Jesus’ ministry (4) examples → financial security, physical health, relational struggles, purpose/existence, disappointments, grief from loss, past shame/guilt

Display hope: (1) one of the intended noticeable fruits of being a follower of Jesus is having hope (2) first step → writing your story of coming to Christ (i.e. life before Christ, when/where/how you began following, life since Christ) → my story (3) exercise for membership (4) this is one of the reasons we have suffering (5) where/how can you display hope in Christ?

Be respectful: (1) HOW we talk to others a big factor in evangelism → who are you most likely to be disrespectful toward (cf. good Samaritan) (2) examples → differing politics, levels of education, other cultures, Christians with secondary doctrines/practices (3) understanding “doing church” as evangelism → events vs. relationships

Conclusion: (1) prep for Wednesday (2) community as a tool for advancing the kingdom

Intro: (1) business meeting, youth FF (2) out this week (3) Proverbs 27:5-6 (cf. Ellen on Idol)

The Right Word (2:6): (1) must be framed by God’s words, not our own (2) not just sharing our opinion (cf. cutting grass, driving, grocery shopping) → lots of people do things lots of different ways (3) practical steps → examine your heart, admit your own faults, remember that change is a process, encourage with gospel-based kindness (cf. Romans 2:4)

From the Right Person (26:17): (1) questions → am I the offended party, am I accountable for either side involved (2) two extremes → confrontation police, avoiding (3) additional times → when you have relational influence (cf. elders), when a person is endangering, taking unnecessary risks, when it is in a required context that you cannot change (cf. workplace)

In the Right Way (24:29): (1) confronting is not revenge, but rather intended to reflect the Lord (cf. 20:22) (2) NT principles → Eph. 4:15, 32, 1 Cor. 13:5 (3) being motivated by reconciliation, not being proven right (4) what makes this tricky → personal irritation, not having the right info, unrealistic expectations (5) stay current, humble, encouraging

At the Right Time (25:11): (1) the best words are those that come at the right time (2) something can be true/needed but not delivered at the right time (3) one characteristic of foolish words is those that come at inappropriate times (4) good prayer → help for when is best time (5) give a heads up, don’t do through text or email (6) not being too quick or too slow

To the Right Person (9:7-8): (1) “right person” → THE person, one who will hear (cf. 28:23) (2) don’t expect others to be excited about being confronted (3) guard against assuming the worst about the other person (4) what if the person is unreceptive → Col. 3:12-14, seek wise counsel (cf. family vacation), Romans 12:18


Conclusion: (1) Lewis and Tolkien → “Bingo” (2) giving/receiving confrontation in light of the cross

Intro: (1) series recap (2) listening → 20:12, Psalm 40:6, Jesus (“he who has ears …”) (3) clapping

How to Listen

1. Listen to counsel (15:22): (1) we need wise input from others (2) leadership (cf. 11:14), picking battles (cf. 20:18) (3) “guidance” = steering a ship (4) examples → Rehoboam, Jerusalem council (5) why we don’t → pride, fear, don’t know where to look, been burned (6) how to cultivate → church membership (i.e. elders), shep group, learn from experiences of others (cf. AP cg group)

2. Listen to correction (15:31-32): (1) willing to be corrected, instructed → to refuse is to despise oneself (2) 6:23 (“the way of life), 19:8 (“loves his own soul”) (3) also includes instruction, being taught, learning (4) examples → Nathan/David, Apollos/P&A, Paul/Peter, Bereans (5) application → children toward parents → don’t lose heart with “strong-willed”

3. Listen with humility (15:32-33): (1) true listening flows from a heart of humility (2) humility
related to both correction and also focusing more on others than ourselves (3) true humility
only flows from union with Christ (cf. Philipp. 2:1-11) (4) examples → Moses, Isaiah, Joseph (NT) (5) turning conversations toward ourselves → one-up, re-route, interrogation, fixer, deflector

4. Listen with intentionality (18:2,13,17): (1) good speaking happens after good listening → desire to always share opinion prevents this (cf. Gen. 9:21) (2) Joshua, boy Samuel, Nicodemus (3) grow as a listener → get around good listeners, open-ended questions, determine best times to talk, put phone down, listen to “unimportant” things to pave the way for more important things

5. Listen to pain (Proverbs 12:25): (1) everyone carrying varying degrees of struggle (2) part of serving each other is offering “a good word” → only happens by listening well first (4) examples → Jacob/Esau, David/Jonathan, Ruth/Naomi (5) listening well to pain → avoid cliche (cf. everything will be okay, God is good, will make you stronger), sit silently, empathize, pray, bible


Conclusion: Jesus listens (cf. Bartimaeus) and speaks (cf. John 10)

Intro: (1) series recap (2) words to avoid (cf. “Christmas Story” movie)

Categories

1. Contentious speech (26:21): (1) words that stir up, look for opp’s to argue (2) contrarian, caring too much about non-important things, confusing fact and opinion (3) strategy → slowing down before speaking, assessing motivation, appreciating other viewpoints
2. Perverse speech (4:24): (1) words that distort truth → “crooked” (cf. 3:5-6) (2) false ideas,
approving/minimizing/justifying sin, rejecting scripture (3) strategy → God knows me best, in my flesh I accommodate myself, guarding our minds, who/what will we choose to be influenced by
3. Flattering speech (26:28): (1) using words to be liked/accepted/advanced (i.e. not genuine) (2) flirting, people-pleasing, puffing up apart from merit (3) strategy → identity comes from acceptance in Christ, are my words motivated by wanting to be like or genuine encouragement
4. Insensitive speech (26:18-19): (1) attempts at humor/attention that are inappropriate (2)
making someone the butt of a joke, embarrassing, embellishing, “just joking” (3) possible to be too sensitive (4) strategy → be aware of insecurities, how can I make this person feel valuable
5. Slandering speech (11:13): (1) sharing what shouldn’t be shared, defaming (2) breaking
confidence, “prayer request” disguise, involving someone disconnected (cf. 26:17), grounded in revenge/jealousy/pride (3) strategy → foster relationship with those different from you
6. Boastful speech (27:1-2): (1) being too presumptuous, drawing attention to oneself (2) ensuring others aware of accomplishments, over-reliance on plans/goals, parenting (3) strategy → reject incessant activity, use self-deprecating humor


Conclusion: (1) harmful speech separates us from God (cf. Mt. 12:36) (2) one description of Jesus is perfect speech (cf. 1 Peter 2:22) (3) Jesus alone offers freedom from slavery to harmful speech

Intro: (1) series recap (2) value of words (20:15) → (cf. bb cards) (3) ultimate value of love

Wisdom Words

1. Supportive words (31:8-9): (1) words that defend/help (cf. not present, can’t help themselves) (2) spoken to one with power/influence (3) categories → parent, boss, older, teacher, gov’t
2. Healing words (12:18): (1) injury vs. healing → rash reckless anger vs. humble care and concern (2) easiest toward those we’re closest to → “I am sorry” (3) me struggling with intensity
3. Hope-filled words (12:25): (1) all carrying anxiety (cf. relational, financial, vocational, spiritual, cultural, etc.) → REMEMBER (2) resist cultural hopelessness through Christ (cf. John 16:33)

Gospel Words

1. Truth words (Eph. 4:14-15): (1) unity/maturity goal of church → tied to Christ (2) happens
through rejecting human ideas, speaking truth in love (3) opinion, self-help, other religions (4) counter with “truth in love” (5) truth comes from scripture, love comes from relationship
2. Grace words (Eph. 4:29): (1) “corrupting” = rotten, putrid (cf. fruit, fish) → “decay-spreading conversation that runs others down and delights in their weakness” (3) “grace” talk = building others up (4) gracious speech flows from remembering our own need for grace (5) church name
3. Forgiving words (Eph. 4:32): (1) forgiveness begins vertically (2) forgiveness is the only way to remain soft-hearted (3) forgiveness is refusing to hold onto wrongs and/or retaliate
(4) furthermore, forgiveness is replacing offense with active kindness


Conclusion: love the ultimate litmus test (John 13:34), indication of Spirit (1 Cor. 13:4-7)

Intro: (1) series recap (2) Proverbs 4:20-24 (3) 8 truths across 3 categories of words

The Power of Words

1. Words stick (18:21): (1) tongue capable of very good and very bad → will produce these fruits (2) Gottman ratio, negative consumer experiences (3) id someone to encourage before leaving
2. Words spread (10:10-11): (1) winking = whispering (cf. 16:27-28) → negative words like wildfire (2) don’t do it, don’t repeat it (3) share good things you see others do (cf. Neusken babysitter)

The Weakness of Words

1. Words are not actions (14:23): (1) results come from action, talk is cheap (2) James → doers of the word, faith/works, blessed/warmed (3) “engaged in ministry” → Sun mornings, meals, EG
2. Words can be deceptive (24:12): (1) deceiving others (cf. speeding ticket) (2) deceiving ourselves (cf. making excuses) (3) Mt. 5:37 → trustworthiness of words come from record of integrity

Words at Their Best

1. Honest words (24:24-26): (1) v.24-25 → honesty means addressing issues (cf. Mt 18), not
flattering or pandering (cf. parenting) (2) v.26 → honesty is faithful affection (cf. cold shoulder)
2. Few words (17:28): (1) few words help even the foolish (cf. rich guy buying car) (2) 10:19 →
more words = more sin (3) using less words → questions, social media, silent retreats, feedback
3. Calm words (17:27): (1) calm = slow, measured, not panicky/combative, quiet, self-controlled (cf. 29:11) (2) qualified exceptions (cf. child in danger, vulnerability in prayer and with trusted others)
4. Timely words (15:23): (1) blessing of receiving well-timed words (cf. water break) (2) examples → staff bdays, prayer in real time, using names, noticing/initiating, sharing from experience

Conclusion: Proverbs 4:23, Matthew 12:34

Intro: (1) series intro (2) intro to Proverbs (read v.1) → title, structure, etc. (3) “small sayings with big truths (cf. parables) → my favorites (4) “wisdom” = truth lived out practically → framework for words (4) wisdom connected to gospel (cf. Mt. 12:42, 1 Cor. 1:23-24)

What Wisdom Is (2-6)

1. Instruction and Understanding (v.2):
(1) “instruction” → recognition that I don’t know everything and can’t do everything (cf. “my do it”) (2) requires humility/recognition of God (3) willingness to receive correction → who are you willing to be influenced by? (4) “understanding” → awareness of what is going on around you (cf. playbook vs. game) (5) app to words

2. Right and Wrong (v.3):
(1) wisdom more than not being foolish (cf. grandma on trampoline) (2) biblical wisdom grounded in right vs. wrong OR obedience vs. disobedience (cf. Adam/Eve, Israel, Pharisees) (3) living right(eously) only possibly when I live under God’s authority (cf. teens) (4) possible only through Christ (cf. 1 Cor. 1:23-24) (5) app to words

3. Prudence and Discretion (v.4):
(1) ability to read a situation and make the best decision (2) “prudence” = shrewdness (cf. dad’s advice) (3) “discretion” = consequences to actions (cf. economics, elders) (4) simple/youth → inexperience aspect of wisdom (cf. Tim T maxim) (5) app to words

4. Guidance and Learning (v.5-6):
(1) v.2-4 for beginners, v.5-6 more advanced (2) those who are wise realize that they never arrive, must learn to enjoy the process of long-term slow growth (cf. weight lifting) (3) easier to think we have it figured out as we get older (cf. young vs. old pastors) (4) app to words → God’s past faithfulness, continuing to ask questions, don’t know everything

Conclusion: (1) v.7 is how we get wisdom (2) v.7 breakdown → only God is wise, he calls us to trust him more than ourselves (cf. 3:5-6) (3) happens through Christ (cf. Mt. 7:24-27, John 14:6, 2 Cor, 1:23-24) (3) will spend coming weeks looking at categories of wise words